Comments on: Siblings…Who Needs ‘Em? http://www.lifeschocolates.com/relationships/siblings-who-needs-em/ Wed, 08 Sep 2010 17:27:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/relationships/siblings-who-needs-em/comment-page-1/#comment-1368 sameve Sun, 14 Mar 2010 02:54:04 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=1155#comment-1368 Susan: I love hearing about the relationships you have with your brothers, and your whole family for that matter. They all sound so awesome and kind and supportive, and I'm very glad you have that in your life. It seems like you were close with your brothers in a different way when you were younger, and you might not even have realized it. But now, as you said, you have adult relationships with them, and that's great too. You're right that a lot depends on family dynamics and how you've grown up. Like I said in the post, my uncles tortured my mom and hardly ever got in trouble. So, they thought that was okay, and I'm sure that had an impact on how they treated her in later years. Anyway, hooray for being close with your family! Thanks for your comments! Susan: I love hearing about the relationships you have with your brothers, and your whole family for that matter. They all sound so awesome and kind and supportive, and I'm very glad you have that in your life. It seems like you were close with your brothers in a different way when you were younger, and you might not even have realized it. But now, as you said, you have adult relationships with them, and that's great too. You're right that a lot depends on family dynamics and how you've grown up. Like I said in the post, my uncles tortured my mom and hardly ever got in trouble. So, they thought that was okay, and I'm sure that had an impact on how they treated her in later years. Anyway, hooray for being close with your family! Thanks for your comments!

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/relationships/siblings-who-needs-em/comment-page-1/#comment-1369 sameve Sun, 14 Mar 2010 02:48:47 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=1155#comment-1369 Adam: My boyfriend and his brother are three years apart, and he's older too. They have different interests, but they're both very smart, and I know his brother felt like he was living in my boyfriend's shadow a lot in high school. That said, they're pretty close, and have learned to stop being so competitive and support each other. I'm so glad that your brother would be there for you in tough times. No matter how your relationship may change, being there for each other when you need it is so important. Thanks for sharing your perspective! Adam: My boyfriend and his brother are three years apart, and he's older too. They have different interests, but they're both very smart, and I know his brother felt like he was living in my boyfriend's shadow a lot in high school. That said, they're pretty close, and have learned to stop being so competitive and support each other. I'm so glad that your brother would be there for you in tough times. No matter how your relationship may change, being there for each other when you need it is so important. Thanks for sharing your perspective!

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/relationships/siblings-who-needs-em/comment-page-1/#comment-1370 sameve Sun, 14 Mar 2010 02:45:21 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=1155#comment-1370 Emily: That's a great lesson your parents taught you, and it's something that applies to all relationships, not just those between siblings. It's interesting to hear how your relationships with your brothers have changed over time. Judging by my mom and her brothers, I'm sure they will continue to change and develop throughout your lives. I hope they realize how lucky they are to have you as a sister! Emily: That's a great lesson your parents taught you, and it's something that applies to all relationships, not just those between siblings. It's interesting to hear how your relationships with your brothers have changed over time. Judging by my mom and her brothers, I'm sure they will continue to change and develop throughout your lives. I hope they realize how lucky they are to have you as a sister!

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/relationships/siblings-who-needs-em/comment-page-1/#comment-1371 sameve Sun, 14 Mar 2010 02:43:24 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=1155#comment-1371 Wooo only children unite! Haha. As I told you, I loved your post about being an only child. I can identify with pretty much everything you've felt and gone through. There are definitely positives and negatives for everyone, and I think we just have to make the most of what we're given, and appreciate the people we have in our lives. Thanks Beth :) Wooo only children unite! Haha. As I told you, I loved your post about being an only child. I can identify with pretty much everything you've felt and gone through. There are definitely positives and negatives for everyone, and I think we just have to make the most of what we're given, and appreciate the people we have in our lives. Thanks Beth :)

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/relationships/siblings-who-needs-em/comment-page-1/#comment-1367 sameve Thu, 11 Mar 2010 02:41:28 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=1155#comment-1367 Ryan: I think your relationship with your sister sounds pretty normal (and similar to Naomi's with her sisters). You're always going to see her as your little sister, but now that you're grown up and she's on her way there, you realize that there's she's not quite as bratty anymore :) If she's anything like you, I'm sure she's a cool girl! Thanks for commenting! Ryan: I think your relationship with your sister sounds pretty normal (and similar to Naomi's with her sisters). You're always going to see her as your little sister, but now that you're grown up and she's on her way there, you realize that there's she's not quite as bratty anymore :) If she's anything like you, I'm sure she's a cool girl! Thanks for commenting!

]]> By: Susan Pogorzelski http://www.lifeschocolates.com/relationships/siblings-who-needs-em/comment-page-1/#comment-1365 Susan Pogorzelski Thu, 11 Mar 2010 02:16:17 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=1155#comment-1365 Siblings...Who needs them? Quite frankly...Me. :)<br><br>I grew up with two older brothers -- six and seven years apart from me. When they said no to my request to play Barbies, I longed for sisters. When they wrestled in the hall and disturbed my naptime, I longed to be an only child. Yet I always knew that I wouldn't change anything about my family, even if I could.<br><br>I've always been close with my family, and as I've gotten older, I've formed adult relationships with my brothers. True, they still will always see me as their kid sister and sometimes be too overprotective for my liking, but I know that they are always there for me. Like when I got sick all over the kitchen floor and my brother came home from work to clean it up (sorry, gross.). Or that time I'll never forget...when my grandmother fell and we waited for the ambulance, when I was in tears and they just held me.<br><br>I think every family dynamic is different -- if you're an only child, there's so much to learn from and enjoy; if you have siblings, you have someone to care for or take care of you, to look up to. I think both instances can be special; I think maybe it all depends on how we grew up. The grass is always greener until you grow up. Or something. Cool post, Sam. Siblings…Who needs them? Quite frankly…Me. :)

I grew up with two older brothers — six and seven years apart from me. When they said no to my request to play Barbies, I longed for sisters. When they wrestled in the hall and disturbed my naptime, I longed to be an only child. Yet I always knew that I wouldn't change anything about my family, even if I could.

I've always been close with my family, and as I've gotten older, I've formed adult relationships with my brothers. True, they still will always see me as their kid sister and sometimes be too overprotective for my liking, but I know that they are always there for me. Like when I got sick all over the kitchen floor and my brother came home from work to clean it up (sorry, gross.). Or that time I'll never forget…when my grandmother fell and we waited for the ambulance, when I was in tears and they just held me.

I think every family dynamic is different — if you're an only child, there's so much to learn from and enjoy; if you have siblings, you have someone to care for or take care of you, to look up to. I think both instances can be special; I think maybe it all depends on how we grew up. The grass is always greener until you grow up. Or something. Cool post, Sam.

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/relationships/siblings-who-needs-em/comment-page-1/#comment-1366 sameve Thu, 11 Mar 2010 02:08:11 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=1155#comment-1366 Naomi: I think your relationship with your sisters is a great example of maturing with age. When you were younger, you probably didn't appreciate each other, and just thought of each other as competition for your parents' attention and stuff like that. But, now that you're grown up, perhaps you can see the value in your relationship. It's great that they come to you for advice now, and I hope you do get closer over time. Thanks for sharing your story! Naomi: I think your relationship with your sisters is a great example of maturing with age. When you were younger, you probably didn't appreciate each other, and just thought of each other as competition for your parents' attention and stuff like that. But, now that you're grown up, perhaps you can see the value in your relationship. It's great that they come to you for advice now, and I hope you do get closer over time. Thanks for sharing your story!

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/relationships/siblings-who-needs-em/comment-page-1/#comment-1363 sameve Thu, 11 Mar 2010 02:01:09 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=1155#comment-1363 Thanks Mehnaz! I totally love that you're so close with your sister, and I honestly didn't realize you were 7 years apart. It seems like you kind of got a taste of both worlds. For those 7 years, it was like you were an only child, and like you said, you developed a sense of independence. But at the same time, your relationship with your sister has grown and developed and become a major part of your life. You're so lucky to have each other! Thanks Mehnaz! I totally love that you're so close with your sister, and I honestly didn't realize you were 7 years apart. It seems like you kind of got a taste of both worlds. For those 7 years, it was like you were an only child, and like you said, you developed a sense of independence. But at the same time, your relationship with your sister has grown and developed and become a major part of your life. You're so lucky to have each other!

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/relationships/siblings-who-needs-em/comment-page-1/#comment-1364 sameve Thu, 11 Mar 2010 01:57:30 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=1155#comment-1364 You're welcome, Ashley! I'd been thinking a lot about this topic before we talked about you and your brother the other day. Then, that conversation just made me think more, so I figured I would jot the ideas down. Anyway, you're definitely right. Being an only child has a different effect on some people than others. I think it depends a lot on your parents and how they raise you, and if they teach you how to be a proper grown-up. Sounds like your ex's mom wanted to continue pretending he was still her little boy, so she kept doing things for him, probably not even realizing that she was also enabling his dependency. Good luck to his wife haha. Thanks for your comments! You're welcome, Ashley! I'd been thinking a lot about this topic before we talked about you and your brother the other day. Then, that conversation just made me think more, so I figured I would jot the ideas down. Anyway, you're definitely right. Being an only child has a different effect on some people than others. I think it depends a lot on your parents and how they raise you, and if they teach you how to be a proper grown-up. Sounds like your ex's mom wanted to continue pretending he was still her little boy, so she kept doing things for him, probably not even realizing that she was also enabling his dependency. Good luck to his wife haha. Thanks for your comments!

]]> By: Adam http://www.lifeschocolates.com/relationships/siblings-who-needs-em/comment-page-1/#comment-1362 Adam Thu, 11 Mar 2010 01:01:57 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=1155#comment-1362 One sibling for me, and things go back and forth. We're 4yrs apart, I'm older, and not always the wiser. But I think when/if I were to have children, the 4yrs apart is a decent spacing. Otherwise thru high school and life it seems like you'd always be bumping into each other's lives. Maybe thats good? But I do feel if/when times get tough, my brother would be there if needed and I would/have been too. So far in my life it hasn't EVER hurt to have a sibling in the toughest of times or in the best. One sibling for me, and things go back and forth. We're 4yrs apart, I'm older, and not always the wiser. But I think when/if I were to have children, the 4yrs apart is a decent spacing. Otherwise thru high school and life it seems like you'd always be bumping into each other's lives. Maybe thats good? But I do feel if/when times get tough, my brother would be there if needed and I would/have been too. So far in my life it hasn't EVER hurt to have a sibling in the toughest of times or in the best.

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