Comments on: You’re Not Too Busy

By: sameve

sameve — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 00:55:18 +0000

Thanks Beth! It's so important to make time for the special people in our lives, not just for them, but for us too.

By: Beth Oppenheim

Beth Oppenheim — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 20:21:02 +0000

This is a wonderful post, Sam. I think it is very easy for us to get caught up in the drama, and the craziness – and it's important to make time. I struggle with the balance sometimes, but it's a work in progress.

By: sameve

sameve — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 22:32:31 +0000

Hi Ty. I know what you mean. It's hard to put in the effort and not have it reciprocated. That's why I wanted to remind people that they're never too busy for the people who matter. No matter how much you have going on, there is no way that taking 5 minutes to send out a few texts or e-mails will ruin everything. Plus, having strong, loving relationships will have a positive impact on your life overall. Thanks for sharing your perspective!

By: sameve

sameve — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 22:29:00 +0000

Jonha: Yes, making time implies an active effort on your part, while finding time is more tenuous. I agree that we should make a habit of letting our loved ones know that they are loved. Thanks for the comment!

By: Ty Unglebower

Ty Unglebower — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 21:10:45 +0000

I wish more of my “friends” felt this way. Less then 10% of overtures or messages I extend to them ever get returned or even acknowledged, and the refrains is always, “I'm busy,”. When people matter, they should be worth the 5 seconds to shoot an e-mail response.

By: Jonha Revesencio

Jonha Revesencio — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 18:53:33 +0000

I like how you put it, MAKE time and not just find time because if you strive to work on the latter, you'd most likely fail. Sometimes we may fail to let these loved ones feel that they're loved by not communicating with them but the worse thing that could ever happen is that when you don't think of them at all! No matter what we're doing, we should make it a habit to make our loved ones feel that they are indeed being loved.

By: sameve

sameve — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 23:18:54 +0000

Great points, Grace. It shouldn't be hard work for us to make time for those who truly matter. We should WANT to do it. Any relationship requires time, effort and energy from both sides. And, you're right, we're all busy. If the President can make time to go on dates with his wife and read stories to his daughters, can't we make time for the important people in our lives? Thanks for sharing your insight!

By: sameve

sameve — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 23:15:59 +0000

I think that's how it translates to a lot of people, and that's why I wanted to write this post. Even if it's unintentional, not making time for people can easily make them feel like you don't care about them. Kudos to you for not using “the b word” for over three months! Very impressive!

By: Grace Boyle

Grace Boyle — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 21:05:29 +0000

My girlfriend and I were talking about this in terms of a guy she is casually dating. She isn't really into him, so it's quickly fading and she's busy finishing her degree HOWEVER she told me, “If I am really into someone and care about them, there's nothing I wouldn't drop for them.”

The same goes with friends, family, etc. There are certain people where the hard work, isn't hard, it's just part of it because you want to. I think it's funny how this works and I also, greatly appreciate it. It really shows who is true..and who isn't. Because really, we are ALL busy, so that's just not an excuse.

By: isaokato

isaokato — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 13:19:18 +0000

Whenever I use/hear the phrase “I'm busy” what I really mean/hear is “You're not that important to me.” Am I the only one? Well I guess not. Haven't used the bxxx word for over three months (intentionally, of course) is what I am secretly proud of. Thanks, I like your insight.