No matter how busy you are, make time for the people who matter. I tweeted this phrase yesterday afternoon, and it got me thinking. So many of us are living non-stop lives, working hard to reach our goals and be successful. Often, it’s our relationships that suffer most in this type of lifestyle. But, let this post serve as a friendly reminder. You are NOT too busy for the ones who mean the most to you.
Trips home for holidays or special occasions can be crazy. Everyone wants to see you, and your Blackberry/iPhone is blinking nonstop with tweets and e-mails. A bunch of kids from high school are going out drinking, but you haven’t seen your best friend in months. Have dinner just the two of you before going out, or skip the drinking altogether and stay in for a quiet night of catching up. Here’s another idea, actually using your lunch hour to meet a friend who works in the same area you do. It’ll be good for your sanity, and your friendship.
I’m really close with my parents, and fortunate to only live a little more than an hour away from them. I know that either or both of these might not be the case for everyone. But, no matter how much your mother nags, or your father shakes his head, never forget that they brought you into this world and they love you. Send them an e-mail every couple of weeks and give them an update on your life. You know they’re wondering. And, when you’re home, don’t plan to spend every minute with friends and just use your parents’ place as somewhere to crash. At least give them a meal’s worth of your time.
For social media geeks like us, we have a whole other world of people who matter on different levels (which could be its own blog post). Our readers matter to us, at least they should, so show them you appreciate them by responding to comments and thanking people for RTs. If one of your Gchat buddies IMs you and you’re too busy to chat, just let them know. For those precious few who cross the line from online connections to true friends, the ones who you share your life with, and talk heart to heart, make sure they know that they’re important to you. The online world is different in so many ways. We’re connected with so many people, that it’s difficult to know where you stand. You could easily admire someone who doesn’t know you exist, or be putting a ton of effort into what you consider a friendship, and just end up being another one of that person’s many connections.
You are NOT too busy. Yes, you have a lot going on. I know you’re on a deadline, and your significant other thinks you spend too much time online, and you have to close a certain number of deals this month to be able to pay your bills…but you can still find the time for the people who matter. Even a few minutes can make a big difference in the long run of life.