Comments on: Lessons in Friendship: Quality Over Quantity

By: Is It Hard For You To Make Friends? | Small Hands, Big Ideas

Is It Hard For You To Make Friends? | Small Hands, Big Ideas — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 15:04:56 +0000

[...] Any relationship is “work” but it ends up being work that you want to do. It’s not hard to do something kind for those relationships in my life; whether it’s buying them a drink, picking them up at 1:00 AM at the airport, listening to them cry and complain or helping them move. It’s work I’m willing to put in, because it’s just part of the friendship package. I’m fiercely loyal and am not a fan of fair weathered friends. [...]

By: sameve

sameve — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 18:22:47 +0000

Andhari, you are totally right. Something I've touched on a lot in my posts is appreciating the important people in our lives, including our friends. If you're lucky enough to find the good ones, hold on tight!

By: sameve

sameve — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 18:21:45 +0000

Matt, I definitely experienced the same drifting after high school and college. Sometimes it's hard to find out who our true friends are, but we'll be glad we know in the long run. You're right, it is a part of growing up and learning about ourselves.

I'm glad you've been reaching out to your old friends too. Whether they're one of your best friends or not, there's something special about someone who has known you for so long. I agree that it's important to make sure you spend some time talking and re-connecting with your friends face to face, but if you're too far away to do that, picking up the phone instead of shooting an e-mail makes a big difference too. Thanks for your comments!

By: sameve

sameve — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 12:22:47 +0000

By: sameve

sameve — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 12:22:00 +0000

By: sameve

sameve — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 12:21:45 +0000

By: sameve

sameve — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 12:21:00 +0000

Matt, I definitely experienced the same drifting after high school and college. Sometimes it's hard to find out who our true friends are, but we'll be glad we know in the long run. You're right, it is a part of growing up and learning about ourselves. I'm glad you've been reaching out to your old friends too. Whether they're one of your best friends or not, there's something special about someone who has known you for so long. I agree that it's important to make sure you spend some time talking and re-connecting with your friends face to face, but if you're too far away to do that, picking up the phone instead of shooting an e-mail makes a big difference too. Thanks for your comments!

By: andhari

andhari — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 05:34:39 +0000

I agree, I know I have a lot of friends out there but I only believe a few of them.Those who I go out regularly and talk to about my problems. It's hard finding true friends, you should always cherish them like your own family.:)

By: andhari

andhari — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 05:34:00 +0000

By: Matthew

Matthew — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 01:33:54 +0000

I couldn't agree more with this Sam – friendships are much more about quality over quantity. I don't know about you, but after high school I drifted away from almost all of my friends, after college, I went through the same thing – you learn who your true friends are, who are just going to remain acquaintances, and who never really gave a damn. But I think this is a natural part of growing up – we learn more about ourselves, we all change, we evolve from our 'getting drunk and partying days' (some of us) – we develop new interests, and so on. But through it all, we learn who our BEST FRIENDS are – maybe they're our significant others, maybe even family members – whoever they are, i would much rather have one GREAT friend that I can always trust than an infinite number of people who may or may not be actual 'friends'

To your point – I think reaching out to old friends is important – it's something I've done recently, diving deep into my vault. Today I went to lunch with a buddy who I've been friends with since grade school – we may not be best friends, but we're good ones, we have a good time together, and it's pretty amazing to see how far both of us have come since we were 10 years old. If we all reached out and met up with some old buddies FACE TO FACE (big difference than talking online or whatever) I think we would be surprised and the friendships that can be forged.