Comments on: Celebrating with Friends & Why I Love Being a Grownup http://www.lifeschocolates.com/friends/celebrating-with-friends-and-why-i-love-being-a-grownup/ Fri, 03 Sep 2010 13:13:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Elisa Doucette http://www.lifeschocolates.com/friends/celebrating-with-friends-and-why-i-love-being-a-grownup/comment-page-1/#comment-1009 Elisa Doucette Wed, 17 Jun 2009 07:21:13 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=339#comment-1009 Haha, you love it's use as only a person with ties to the Northeast would! Haha, you love it's use as only a person with ties to the Northeast would!

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/friends/celebrating-with-friends-and-why-i-love-being-a-grownup/comment-page-1/#comment-1008 sameve Wed, 17 Jun 2009 07:06:25 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=339#comment-1008 Elisa: Great point, when we're in high school and college, we are still trying to figure out who we are. That is a complicated and often difficult process, so you're right that it probably has something to do with the friends we make during these times in our lives. Even though many of us are still coming into our own, I think just being out of the school setting forces us to step outside our comfort zone and expand our social circle. An open mind is key, and making new friends is worth it! (By the way, love your use of wicked!) Elisa: Great point, when we're in high school and college, we are still trying to figure out who we are. That is a complicated and often difficult process, so you're right that it probably has something to do with the friends we make during these times in our lives. Even though many of us are still coming into our own, I think just being out of the school setting forces us to step outside our comfort zone and expand our social circle. An open mind is key, and making new friends is worth it! (By the way, love your use of wicked!)

]]> By: Elisa Doucette http://www.lifeschocolates.com/friends/celebrating-with-friends-and-why-i-love-being-a-grownup/comment-page-1/#comment-1007 Elisa Doucette Wed, 17 Jun 2009 06:04:21 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=339#comment-1007 I think another part of the changing of friendships is the exposures you have. As Ryan & Grace commented, when you are in high school and college you hang out with the people who share the same interests as you. And a big part of that is at those times you are really just working on figuring out who YOU are, so stepping outside your box is wicked uncomfortable. As you get older, and start being more comfortable with change (right Matt?!) you also become comfortable with being friends with new people who help/challenge/enable your changing life. Thus the different circle start intermixing. Some people will change and evolve as well, some will take a path away from you, some the same and some parallel. The good news is, as long as you are willing to keep an open mind, new friends are always available to you. :) I think another part of the changing of friendships is the exposures you have. As Ryan & Grace commented, when you are in high school and college you hang out with the people who share the same interests as you. And a big part of that is at those times you are really just working on figuring out who YOU are, so stepping outside your box is wicked uncomfortable. As you get older, and start being more comfortable with change (right Matt?!) you also become comfortable with being friends with new people who help/challenge/enable your changing life. Thus the different circle start intermixing. Some people will change and evolve as well, some will take a path away from you, some the same and some parallel. The good news is, as long as you are willing to keep an open mind, new friends are always available to you. :)

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/friends/celebrating-with-friends-and-why-i-love-being-a-grownup/comment-page-1/#comment-1006 sameve Wed, 17 Jun 2009 01:26:01 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=339#comment-1006 Wow, thanks so much for sharing that Carlos! I'd never heard of that particular research before, but I guess it goes along with my convenience theory. It's so interesting though that the people who were surveyed thought they had similar opinions but actually didn't. I guess it just goes to show that we can disagree with people or come from totally different backgrounds and still be friends. Always happy to have you contribute to the discussion! Wow, thanks so much for sharing that Carlos! I'd never heard of that particular research before, but I guess it goes along with my convenience theory. It's so interesting though that the people who were surveyed thought they had similar opinions but actually didn't. I guess it just goes to show that we can disagree with people or come from totally different backgrounds and still be friends. Always happy to have you contribute to the discussion!

]]> By: opheliaswebb http://www.lifeschocolates.com/friends/celebrating-with-friends-and-why-i-love-being-a-grownup/comment-page-1/#comment-357 opheliaswebb Wed, 17 Jun 2009 01:21:13 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=339#comment-357 Haha, you love it's use as only a person with ties to the Northeast would! Haha, you love it's use as only a person with ties to the Northeast would!

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/friends/celebrating-with-friends-and-why-i-love-being-a-grownup/comment-page-1/#comment-356 sameve Wed, 17 Jun 2009 01:06:25 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=339#comment-356 Elisa: Great point, when we're in high school and college, we are still trying to figure out who we are. That is a complicated and often difficult process, so you're right that it probably has something to do with the friends we make during these times in our lives. Even though many of us are still coming into our own, I think just being out of the school setting forces us to step outside our comfort zone and expand our social circle. An open mind is key, and making new friends is worth it! (By the way, love your use of wicked!) Elisa: Great point, when we're in high school and college, we are still trying to figure out who we are. That is a complicated and often difficult process, so you're right that it probably has something to do with the friends we make during these times in our lives. Even though many of us are still coming into our own, I think just being out of the school setting forces us to step outside our comfort zone and expand our social circle. An open mind is key, and making new friends is worth it! (By the way, love your use of wicked!)

]]> By: opheliaswebb http://www.lifeschocolates.com/friends/celebrating-with-friends-and-why-i-love-being-a-grownup/comment-page-1/#comment-355 opheliaswebb Wed, 17 Jun 2009 00:04:21 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=339#comment-355 I think another part of the changing of friendships is the exposures you have. As Ryan & Grace commented, when you are in high school and college you hang out with the people who share the same interests as you. And a big part of that is at those times you are really just working on figuring out who YOU are, so stepping outside your box is wicked uncomfortable. As you get older, and start being more comfortable with change (right Matt?!) you also become comfortable with being friends with new people who help/challenge/enable your changing life. Thus the different circle start intermixing. Some people will change and evolve as well, some will take a path away from you, some the same and some parallel. The good news is, as long as you are willing to keep an open mind, new friends are always available to you. :) I think another part of the changing of friendships is the exposures you have. As Ryan & Grace commented, when you are in high school and college you hang out with the people who share the same interests as you. And a big part of that is at those times you are really just working on figuring out who YOU are, so stepping outside your box is wicked uncomfortable. As you get older, and start being more comfortable with change (right Matt?!) you also become comfortable with being friends with new people who help/challenge/enable your changing life. Thus the different circle start intermixing. Some people will change and evolve as well, some will take a path away from you, some the same and some parallel. The good news is, as long as you are willing to keep an open mind, new friends are always available to you. :)

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/friends/celebrating-with-friends-and-why-i-love-being-a-grownup/comment-page-1/#comment-354 sameve Tue, 16 Jun 2009 19:26:01 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=339#comment-354 Wow, thanks so much for sharing that Carlos! I'd never heard of that particular research before, but I guess it goes along with my convenience theory. It's so interesting though that the people who were surveyed thought they had similar opinions but actually didn't. I guess it just goes to show that we can disagree with people or come from totally different backgrounds and still be friends. Always happy to have you contribute to the discussion! Wow, thanks so much for sharing that Carlos! I'd never heard of that particular research before, but I guess it goes along with my convenience theory. It's so interesting though that the people who were surveyed thought they had similar opinions but actually didn't. I guess it just goes to show that we can disagree with people or come from totally different backgrounds and still be friends. Always happy to have you contribute to the discussion!

]]> By: Carlos Miceli http://www.lifeschocolates.com/friends/celebrating-with-friends-and-why-i-love-being-a-grownup/comment-page-1/#comment-353 Carlos Miceli Tue, 16 Jun 2009 19:02:31 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=339#comment-353 Beautiful and relatable story. I don't know why but it reminded me of a particular research on friendship that I read some time ago. When a lot of friends were asked why they were friends, most people say that it's because they think alike, that they share opinions. But the research actually showed that they had very different opnions towards most things. What actually makes people be friends is the sharing of space, physical or virtual (since Twitter would fall into this category too, for example). when you spend a lot of time with someone you end up being friends with that someone.<br><br>So, what I take from that research, is that we should sepnd our time in a lot of different places, in order to have many friends :) Beautiful and relatable story. I don't know why but it reminded me of a particular research on friendship that I read some time ago. When a lot of friends were asked why they were friends, most people say that it's because they think alike, that they share opinions. But the research actually showed that they had very different opnions towards most things. What actually makes people be friends is the sharing of space, physical or virtual (since Twitter would fall into this category too, for example). when you spend a lot of time with someone you end up being friends with that someone.

So, what I take from that research, is that we should sepnd our time in a lot of different places, in order to have many friends :)

]]> By: Grace Boyle http://www.lifeschocolates.com/friends/celebrating-with-friends-and-why-i-love-being-a-grownup/comment-page-1/#comment-352 Grace Boyle Mon, 15 Jun 2009 20:19:24 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=339#comment-352 Haha yes of course online friends! I didn't mention that only because quite frequently we're all spread out that it's not always online friends that happen to fit in the mix offline. Although, it does (and will be) happening hopefully sooner than later :) Haha yes of course online friends! I didn't mention that only because quite frequently we're all spread out that it's not always online friends that happen to fit in the mix offline. Although, it does (and will be) happening hopefully sooner than later :)

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