Comments on: Bloggers Can Be Friends Too V2 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/bloggers-can-be-friends-too-v2/ Fri, 30 Jul 2010 22:09:04 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/bloggers-can-be-friends-too-v2/comment-page-1/#comment-1190 sameve Wed, 27 Jan 2010 07:37:20 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=996#comment-1190 Mehnaz: Ryan's comment was priceless! I totally remember chat rooms! They were so intriguing when we were younger...it was like the great unknown. You make a very important point that I didn't really consider. All of these social sites are linked together, so really being someone you're not would require a lot of time and effort, and a fantastic memory. However, I'm not necessarily talking substantial personality differences. It could be something smaller that's easier to conceal. But, it is up to us to judge what is right and what is true. Thanks for the insight :) Mehnaz: Ryan's comment was priceless! I totally remember chat rooms! They were so intriguing when we were younger…it was like the great unknown. You make a very important point that I didn't really consider. All of these social sites are linked together, so really being someone you're not would require a lot of time and effort, and a fantastic memory. However, I'm not necessarily talking substantial personality differences. It could be something smaller that's easier to conceal. But, it is up to us to judge what is right and what is true. Thanks for the insight :)

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/bloggers-can-be-friends-too-v2/comment-page-1/#comment-1189 sameve Wed, 27 Jan 2010 07:32:52 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=996#comment-1189 Great point, Rebecca. We should definitely be mindful when we're taking advice from people. Like I said, I don't want to discourage people from making friends online, they just need to be cognizant of the possibilities that are out there, and take things with a grain of salt until they know people. Thanks for your comments! Great point, Rebecca. We should definitely be mindful when we're taking advice from people. Like I said, I don't want to discourage people from making friends online, they just need to be cognizant of the possibilities that are out there, and take things with a grain of salt until they know people. Thanks for your comments!

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/bloggers-can-be-friends-too-v2/comment-page-1/#comment-1188 sameve Wed, 27 Jan 2010 07:26:42 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=996#comment-1188 :) Yeah, makes a lot of sense. You have to make some sort of connection before you feel comfortable. Honest and truthful is the way to go, though, so props to you! :) Yeah, makes a lot of sense. You have to make some sort of connection before you feel comfortable. Honest and truthful is the way to go, though, so props to you!

]]> By: Susan Pogorzelski http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/bloggers-can-be-friends-too-v2/comment-page-1/#comment-1186 Susan Pogorzelski Wed, 27 Jan 2010 02:56:32 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=996#comment-1186 I definitely didn't mean they were disappointments and really do believe, like you, that sometimes these people can create the greatest impact -- and sometimes never even know it.<br><br>I meant more that it's a shame that they're only there for a reason or for a season when you once imagined them to be there for a lifetime. <br><br>So much for articulation ;) I definitely didn't mean they were disappointments and really do believe, like you, that sometimes these people can create the greatest impact — and sometimes never even know it.

I meant more that it's a shame that they're only there for a reason or for a season when you once imagined them to be there for a lifetime.

So much for articulation ;)

]]> By: Beth Oppenheim http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/bloggers-can-be-friends-too-v2/comment-page-1/#comment-1185 Beth Oppenheim Wed, 27 Jan 2010 02:47:11 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=996#comment-1185 Yay for awesomeness in person!!!<br>I think that its less about fulfilling expectations of what the person wants me to be, but more that I want to always stay guarded until i KNOW what i have in front of me. It's hard for a person to be themselves online 100% of the time, but I know that being honest and truthful is the way to go :) Yay for awesomeness in person!!!
I think that its less about fulfilling expectations of what the person wants me to be, but more that I want to always stay guarded until i KNOW what i have in front of me. It's hard for a person to be themselves online 100% of the time, but I know that being honest and truthful is the way to go :)

]]> By: Mehnaz http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/bloggers-can-be-friends-too-v2/comment-page-1/#comment-1184 Mehnaz Wed, 27 Jan 2010 00:44:14 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=996#comment-1184 Ryan's comment made me crack up.<br><br>This still hearkens back to the days of "chat rooms" (remember those?). Except for it's not so creepy. I think all of the social media linked together goes some ways towards abating that. If you're going to be dishonest about yourself, you'll have to manage an entire infrastructure of lies on FB, Twitter, LinkedIn, Brazen etc...<br>So, 1. that would take talent and 2. that would take a really good memory.<br><br>And I think like all friendships, the online to IRL ones have to follow the same steps and it's up to us to know what is appropriate at each level.<br><br>Thanks for the thoughtful post as always Sam! Ryan's comment made me crack up.

This still hearkens back to the days of “chat rooms” (remember those?). Except for it's not so creepy. I think all of the social media linked together goes some ways towards abating that. If you're going to be dishonest about yourself, you'll have to manage an entire infrastructure of lies on FB, Twitter, LinkedIn, Brazen etc…
So, 1. that would take talent and 2. that would take a really good memory.

And I think like all friendships, the online to IRL ones have to follow the same steps and it's up to us to know what is appropriate at each level.

Thanks for the thoughtful post as always Sam!

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/bloggers-can-be-friends-too-v2/comment-page-1/#comment-1183 sameve Wed, 27 Jan 2010 00:32:27 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=996#comment-1183 I knew it! I'm totally up for some Connect Four, you just make your way up to NYC!<br>Haha thanks, Mr. Comedian :P I knew it! I'm totally up for some Connect Four, you just make your way up to NYC!
Haha thanks, Mr. Comedian :P

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/bloggers-can-be-friends-too-v2/comment-page-1/#comment-1181 sameve Wed, 27 Jan 2010 00:31:16 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=996#comment-1181 Woohoo! Woohoo!

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/bloggers-can-be-friends-too-v2/comment-page-1/#comment-1182 sameve Wed, 27 Jan 2010 00:30:34 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=996#comment-1182 You always articulate yourself so beautifully, Susan! I'm glad, and not surprised, that you were able to relate to this post. We have both noticed some changes in people, and in the community, and found them equally unsettling. The thing is that not everyone is like us, not everyone gives and cares so much. Some people use social networking strictly for business, and don't want to become personally invested in these channels. On the one hand, I can understand that, but on the other, I feel like there must be some sort of balance or middle road. Social media presents us with the amazing opportunity to connect and befriend people from around the country and the world. I think that's pretty amazing.<br><br>As for friendship in general, I think your personal philosophy is a great one. The people who are true friends are the ones who matter most. However, I don't consider all of the people who come into our lives for a reason or a season disappointments. Some of them can still have a positive impact on our lives or create great memories, and just end up at a different place in life. Your last line definitely holds true in my life. There are certain people who I just can't imagine my life without, and those are the ones who are worth the effort. Thanks for your fantastic insight!! You always articulate yourself so beautifully, Susan! I'm glad, and not surprised, that you were able to relate to this post. We have both noticed some changes in people, and in the community, and found them equally unsettling. The thing is that not everyone is like us, not everyone gives and cares so much. Some people use social networking strictly for business, and don't want to become personally invested in these channels. On the one hand, I can understand that, but on the other, I feel like there must be some sort of balance or middle road. Social media presents us with the amazing opportunity to connect and befriend people from around the country and the world. I think that's pretty amazing.

As for friendship in general, I think your personal philosophy is a great one. The people who are true friends are the ones who matter most. However, I don't consider all of the people who come into our lives for a reason or a season disappointments. Some of them can still have a positive impact on our lives or create great memories, and just end up at a different place in life. Your last line definitely holds true in my life. There are certain people who I just can't imagine my life without, and those are the ones who are worth the effort. Thanks for your fantastic insight!!

]]> By: Rebecca http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/bloggers-can-be-friends-too-v2/comment-page-1/#comment-1180 Rebecca Wed, 27 Jan 2010 00:22:16 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=996#comment-1180 I totally agree. People can represent themselves however they want online, but it's rarely (in my experience) who they fully are in person or after you get to know them. I think it's fine to keep reading these blogs, but if we were all a little more mindful of who we were taking advice from, it would be better. I totally agree. People can represent themselves however they want online, but it's rarely (in my experience) who they fully are in person or after you get to know them. I think it's fine to keep reading these blogs, but if we were all a little more mindful of who we were taking advice from, it would be better.

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