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]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/are-men-defying-gender-stereotypes-in-the-digital-world/comment-page-1/#comment-917 sameve Thu, 21 May 2009 07:43:06 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=260#comment-917 Elisa, I loved hearing your point of view. Although my blog tends towards the more "girly," with open, honest, candid posts about life, relationships, etc, I am also somewhat of an exception myself. If you read my post about sports (or check out the About section of my blog), you would know that I'm a big sports fan, and I especially love football (I think we're actually fans of the same teams!) So, I'm kind of an unexpected exception I guess. <br><br>You make a great point. Women are big on community, sharing, and taking the time to make educated decisions. But, I like that you emphasize that just because guys do things differently doesn't mean they don't care. I totally agree that they do care. <br><br>And yes, social media is great because it caters to both segments, but I think it's also great because it provides the opportunity for exceptions like us to connect with people who share all of our varied interests. Thanks so much for your comments! Hope you hear more from you in the future :) Elisa, I loved hearing your point of view. Although my blog tends towards the more “girly,” with open, honest, candid posts about life, relationships, etc, I am also somewhat of an exception myself. If you read my post about sports (or check out the About section of my blog), you would know that I'm a big sports fan, and I especially love football (I think we're actually fans of the same teams!) So, I'm kind of an unexpected exception I guess.

You make a great point. Women are big on community, sharing, and taking the time to make educated decisions. But, I like that you emphasize that just because guys do things differently doesn't mean they don't care. I totally agree that they do care.

And yes, social media is great because it caters to both segments, but I think it's also great because it provides the opportunity for exceptions like us to connect with people who share all of our varied interests. Thanks so much for your comments! Hope you hear more from you in the future :)

]]> By: Elisa http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/are-men-defying-gender-stereotypes-in-the-digital-world/comment-page-1/#comment-916 Elisa Thu, 21 May 2009 07:30:34 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=260#comment-916 Haha, I thought this would be my case and it ended up being true. My Twitter is 60% male, 30% female (without companies/groups) I'm kinda used to that though, I definitely embrace being the guys' girl. And it has GREAT perks for my friends, since my mind tends to function less on the "girl" level (an analysis of my blog said it is predominantly written from a "male perspective.") Which is funny cause when I don't have writers block I write about this exact topic on it! :)<br><br>I think one of the biggest things for guys and girls is the way they analyze data/problems/etc. Women generally tend to enjoy the society of it all. When we have a problem, we like to talk it out with some trusted advisors and friends, sleep on it, talk on it more and finally make a decision (that for me is sadly what I was probably going to decide in the first place.) Guys tend to think on a much more X,Y,Z level. I have problem X, if I implement plan Y I will get to solution Z. They always want to fix things. It isn't even that guys don't care, they care a lot, they just don't necessarily need to see all 100 pieces to figure out the picture on the puzzle. <br><br>Social media is great because it caters to BOTH segments. For women, you can have community. You can chatter back and forth with @replies, you can friend and entire militia of "friends," you can share your deepest thoughts and ideas freely with tons of people. It's like a mecca for multi-taskers. For men, you can find a niche to blog about, you can create friendships to share ideas and processes with, and you can even become an MLB/NFL/NBA general manager and be smarter than those guys ever could be. It's like mecca for a focused problem solver.<br><br>Granted, as you brilliantly stated, there are always exceptions and a lot of this is generalization. Heck, as I mentioned, I myself am the exception! :) Haha, I thought this would be my case and it ended up being true. My Twitter is 60% male, 30% female (without companies/groups) I'm kinda used to that though, I definitely embrace being the guys' girl. And it has GREAT perks for my friends, since my mind tends to function less on the “girl” level (an analysis of my blog said it is predominantly written from a “male perspective.”) Which is funny cause when I don't have writers block I write about this exact topic on it! :)

I think one of the biggest things for guys and girls is the way they analyze data/problems/etc. Women generally tend to enjoy the society of it all. When we have a problem, we like to talk it out with some trusted advisors and friends, sleep on it, talk on it more and finally make a decision (that for me is sadly what I was probably going to decide in the first place.) Guys tend to think on a much more X,Y,Z level. I have problem X, if I implement plan Y I will get to solution Z. They always want to fix things. It isn't even that guys don't care, they care a lot, they just don't necessarily need to see all 100 pieces to figure out the picture on the puzzle.

Social media is great because it caters to BOTH segments. For women, you can have community. You can chatter back and forth with @replies, you can friend and entire militia of “friends,” you can share your deepest thoughts and ideas freely with tons of people. It's like a mecca for multi-taskers. For men, you can find a niche to blog about, you can create friendships to share ideas and processes with, and you can even become an MLB/NFL/NBA general manager and be smarter than those guys ever could be. It's like mecca for a focused problem solver.

Granted, as you brilliantly stated, there are always exceptions and a lot of this is generalization. Heck, as I mentioned, I myself am the exception! :)

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/are-men-defying-gender-stereotypes-in-the-digital-world/comment-page-1/#comment-915 sameve Thu, 21 May 2009 05:55:13 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=260#comment-915 heartbot: it's definitely important to consider content when we're talking about men online. True, some of them are only talking about things like explosions, but there are also some who write about their lives and their careers. Though I think there's been some change because of web 2.0, I don't think that the gender divide will crumble anytime soon. Like I said to Jaym, definitely check out the guys I linked to in the post. Thanks for your comments! heartbot: it's definitely important to consider content when we're talking about men online. True, some of them are only talking about things like explosions, but there are also some who write about their lives and their careers. Though I think there's been some change because of web 2.0, I don't think that the gender divide will crumble anytime soon. Like I said to Jaym, definitely check out the guys I linked to in the post. Thanks for your comments!

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/are-men-defying-gender-stereotypes-in-the-digital-world/comment-page-1/#comment-913 sameve Thu, 21 May 2009 05:51:21 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=260#comment-913 Jaym: I agree with Sam, you do make a lot of good points. The idea of anonymity is still a factor as far as sites like Twitter, but a little harder to pull off with a blog. I think it's great that you are honest and true to yourself. There's nothing wrong with leaving long comments, in fact, it shows that you actually put some thought into what you're writing, and that's a compliment. Like you said though, there are exceptions. Check out the guys I linked to in the post. Thanks for sharing your point of view!<br><br>Sam: you're right, it's very easy for the line between reality and cyberspace to become blurred. Unfortunately, that's why we have to be careful when we let our guard down. But, there are also some great people out there in the blogosphere, male and female. Thanks for commenting! Jaym: I agree with Sam, you do make a lot of good points. The idea of anonymity is still a factor as far as sites like Twitter, but a little harder to pull off with a blog. I think it's great that you are honest and true to yourself. There's nothing wrong with leaving long comments, in fact, it shows that you actually put some thought into what you're writing, and that's a compliment. Like you said though, there are exceptions. Check out the guys I linked to in the post. Thanks for sharing your point of view!

Sam: you're right, it's very easy for the line between reality and cyberspace to become blurred. Unfortunately, that's why we have to be careful when we let our guard down. But, there are also some great people out there in the blogosphere, male and female. Thanks for commenting!

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/are-men-defying-gender-stereotypes-in-the-digital-world/comment-page-1/#comment-911 sameve Thu, 21 May 2009 05:37:00 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=260#comment-911 Ryan, you make some very interesting points. I guess it depends on where you draw the line between being formal and informative and being candid, and perhaps vulnerable. In my opinion, the line is in a different place for men than women just because of where it lies in the non-digital world. As for comments, I don't think the length or depth of the them depends on gender as much as it does on the connection the person feels to the post and what they can contribute to discussion from their own experience. <br><br>Back to taking it past a formal relationship, as you put it, writing open and honest blog entries about your life isn't the only way to do this. Reaching out to follow bloggers and making the extra effort to get to know them, or organizing a guest post series are just a couple of ways. So, I think we're looking at the same thing, just from different perspectives. Thanks for your comments! Ryan, you make some very interesting points. I guess it depends on where you draw the line between being formal and informative and being candid, and perhaps vulnerable. In my opinion, the line is in a different place for men than women just because of where it lies in the non-digital world. As for comments, I don't think the length or depth of the them depends on gender as much as it does on the connection the person feels to the post and what they can contribute to discussion from their own experience.

Back to taking it past a formal relationship, as you put it, writing open and honest blog entries about your life isn't the only way to do this. Reaching out to follow bloggers and making the extra effort to get to know them, or organizing a guest post series are just a couple of ways. So, I think we're looking at the same thing, just from different perspectives. Thanks for your comments!

]]> By: heartbot http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/are-men-defying-gender-stereotypes-in-the-digital-world/comment-page-1/#comment-914 heartbot Thu, 21 May 2009 05:21:06 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=260#comment-914 I think it's also important to consider what the men are talking about: are they talking about their feelings and relationships, or are they going, "Explosions! Action movies! Toilet humor! FUCK YEAH!"? ;) Don't assume that just because they're communicating more, they're communicating about the same things. It's also important to look at what most men use these things for. Are they doing this for socializing, or is this related to their career?<br><br>While I think it would be great if the gender divide were crumbling under the pressure of web 2.0, I fear that web 2.0 has just become another frontier in which the gender divide can be reconstituted. I think it's also important to consider what the men are talking about: are they talking about their feelings and relationships, or are they going, “Explosions! Action movies! Toilet humor! FUCK YEAH!”? ;) Don't assume that just because they're communicating more, they're communicating about the same things. It's also important to look at what most men use these things for. Are they doing this for socializing, or is this related to their career?

While I think it would be great if the gender divide were crumbling under the pressure of web 2.0, I fear that web 2.0 has just become another frontier in which the gender divide can be reconstituted.

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/are-men-defying-gender-stereotypes-in-the-digital-world/comment-page-1/#comment-910 sameve Thu, 21 May 2009 04:28:06 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=260#comment-910 Tim, if you love to write and writing makes you happy, that's all the matters. Tim, if you love to write and writing makes you happy, that's all the matters.

]]> By: sam http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/are-men-defying-gender-stereotypes-in-the-digital-world/comment-page-1/#comment-912 sam Thu, 21 May 2009 03:48:01 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=260#comment-912 Jaym makes a lot of extremely good points. I think the idea of anonymity does seduce men a bit more then it does women, with regards to the internet.(again not the case in every situation) Thus allowing that "baller" facade to be put up. The internet is the perfect place for that, being we are all reporting from our own laptops/macs/pc's; the line between reality and cyberspace can be blurred without care. <br><br>great post Sam :) Jaym makes a lot of extremely good points. I think the idea of anonymity does seduce men a bit more then it does women, with regards to the internet.(again not the case in every situation) Thus allowing that “baller” facade to be put up. The internet is the perfect place for that, being we are all reporting from our own laptops/macs/pc's; the line between reality and cyberspace can be blurred without care.

great post Sam :)

]]> By: sameve http://www.lifeschocolates.com/digital-world/are-men-defying-gender-stereotypes-in-the-digital-world/comment-page-1/#comment-271 sameve Thu, 21 May 2009 01:43:06 +0000 http://www.lifeschocolates.com/?p=260#comment-271 Elisa, I loved hearing your point of view. Although my blog tends towards the more "girly," with open, honest, candid posts about life, relationships, etc, I am also somewhat of an exception myself. If you read my post about sports (or check out the About section of my blog), you would know that I'm a big sports fan, and I especially love football. So, I'm kind of an unexpected exception I guess. <br><br>You make a great point. Women are big on community, sharing, and taking the time to make educated decisions. But, I like that you emphasize that just because guys do things differently doesn't mean they don't care. I totally agree that they do care. <br><br>And yes, social media is great because it caters to both segments, but I think it's also great because it provides the opportunity for exceptions like us to connect with people who share all of our varied interests. Thanks so much for your comments! Hope you hear more from you in the future :) Elisa, I loved hearing your point of view. Although my blog tends towards the more “girly,” with open, honest, candid posts about life, relationships, etc, I am also somewhat of an exception myself. If you read my post about sports (or check out the About section of my blog), you would know that I'm a big sports fan, and I especially love football. So, I'm kind of an unexpected exception I guess.

You make a great point. Women are big on community, sharing, and taking the time to make educated decisions. But, I like that you emphasize that just because guys do things differently doesn't mean they don't care. I totally agree that they do care.

And yes, social media is great because it caters to both segments, but I think it's also great because it provides the opportunity for exceptions like us to connect with people who share all of our varied interests. Thanks so much for your comments! Hope you hear more from you in the future :)

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