Sometimes Life Sucks…But It Could Be Worse

by Samantha on March 22, 2010


I’ve been talking to some new friends lately about the things that have been going on in my life over the past couple of years. When I tell them about my mom being sick, and being stuck in the middle of stuff with my parents, they’re always amazed that I’m not depressed or bitter or crazy…or all of the above. Some people have even said they admire me for how well I’m dealing with things, and while I totally appreciate the compliment, it’s not something I ever expected to hear. After all, I’m not doing anything special. I’m just dealing with things the best way I know how, and continuing to live my life.

Believe me, it’s been a learning process, and I’m much more sane now than I was even a year ago.  Life throws some pretty mean curveballs, sometimes two or three at a time, so you just have to take it a day at a time. There are days when I don’t deal so well.  Everything becomes too overwhelming and I freak out. Sometimes I cry, and sometimes I just sit still and shake my head, wondering how this became my life. But, I only let the pity party last so long. Because when it comes down to it, I am grateful to be alive. I’m grateful to have two parents who love me very much. I’m so lucky to have a supportive boyfriend and great friends. That’s the only way I know how to deal with it, by reminding myself that it could be far worse, and trying to stay as positive as possible.

We’re all going to have days, weeks, sometimes even months, that totally suck. There will be experiences and events that challenge every fiber of our being. My best advice is to maintain perspective, and don’t go it alone. Find people who truly support you and who will actually be there for you when you need them.  And let them be there. I know firsthand that this is easier said than done, but what I’ve discovered is that the best friends are the ones who tell you to shut up and stop apologizing. There’s no secret formula, no special potion. I’m just a girl, trying to make the most out of life as I know it. If I can do it, so can you.

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  • Ryan Knapp

    We’re all going to have days, weeks, sometimes even months, that totally suck. There will be experiences and events that challenge every fiber of our being. My best advice is to maintain perspective, and don’t go it alone.

    Amen. Life happens, you dust yourself off, and you keep moving on. There are always people that will be there for you, and those who you meet that are new friends that offer you a new perspective on things, and can help you through.

  • benjamintwilcox

    “I'm just a girl, in the world. That's they'll let me beeeeeeeeeeee.” Haha sorry, had to throw in a No Doubt lyric for ya.

    I do agree that a lot of life is perspective. It is really easy to get down on yourself and curse your situation. But it is hard to keep hustling, to keep pushing for something better. That is what we all need to strive for and remember, to both enjoy the moment and realize that things will eventually get better when they are bad.

    Great post Sam, I really like your honesty with your posts lately.

  • sameve

    Thanks Ryan! I'm so grateful to count you as one of those new friends. You definitely offer a new perspective and help me through, and I truly appreciate that!

  • sameve

    Haha thank you for the song! Made me literally laugh out loud :) You're right, the easy thing is to have a pity party. What's difficult is overcoming obstacles and appreciating what you have even if things suck at that particular moment. Thanks for your comment, Ben! I'm glad you've been liking my posts!

  • Susan Pogorzelski

    I love Ryan's comment — and I love this post because it's something I've really had to tell myself in the form of a good self-talking to. It really is all about perspective. With all of the health issues I was going through, although I'm ashamed to admit it, I got scared and self-pitying, and I wallowed. Sometimes, we need to give into those emotions and wallow and cry and scream and throw things (preferably plush things). Sometimes we need to remember that we have people on our side, cheering us on from the sidelines until the game that has been so self-consuming is over (or at least in a time-out). Sometimes, you have to remember the good things, even in the face of all of the bad. Because that's what keeps us going.

    Awesome post, Sam.

  • sameve

    Totally. Wallowing, screaming, crying, freaking out, all acceptable reactions to crappy situations….as long as you don't get stuck in that place. As difficult as it may be, I really think perspective is crucial in helping us get past those bumps in the road. You're right that the good things are what keeps us going. Thanks for your insight!

  • Andre Nievo

    Life is so boring without these challenges that we may face in some point of our lives.

  • sameve

    Very true, Andre. But, sometimes I think we would rather have boring lives than go through some of the things we go through.

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