The second assumption is that if you say something publicly it's because you want “drama” or you have bottled your anger for too long. That is rarely true for me either. I say things publicly for two reasons:

1) Because I like to have honest conversations and don't shy away from conflict

2) If I see a pattern in someone, talk to several people and they see the same pattern, and then see my friends completely falling for the same mistakes I did. Unfortunately, there is no amount of talking to someone that will stop them from repeatedly screwing people over.

It's interesting to see how people deal with conflict. There are a lot of assumptions that conflict-phobic people make about conflict-comfortable people. I'm sure the same is true reversed. We all have a lot to learn.

But, like I said to Andrew, in my opinion if you have a problem with someone, the best way to deal with it is by talking to them about it. I've learned that you can't assume people know how they're behaving or how they're actions are affecting others. So, be pissed off, but tell them you're pissed off and why. Let them speak their piece and then feel free to cut them out of your life if they still don't get it. But, don't just let the anger fester, or try to make yourself feel better by talking crap about them to others or calling them out in a public forum.

We're all entitled to forming and maintaining our own opinions. This is mine, and I respect yours and thank you for sharing it here. Just one thing though, I'm not saying that people can't be negative anymore, I'm just trying to get everyone to think twice about what they're so angry about and if it's really worth it. Just remember, life is short.